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Mar. 2nd, 2016

Purge

Everytime I'm in a new place filled with new experiences, I try to look back at what I have been through.

I realize now that I was quite a naive little girl when I entered college. I was proud, arrogant, and I thought I was better than most people. Especially in volleyball, I thought I was one of the best. In other words, mayabang.

Then if you recall, I got cut out of the team after my first year. The reason? New coaching staff. Some kind of cleansing tactic. Up to this day, I don't think it was necessary, especially with the way it was done. All of a sudden, after a big party at the house of the Sorianos my indoor career was just over. I was absent when we were told because I had gone to a funeral so I was told by a teammate through yahoo messenger.

Yes I was a stupid little girl, but I don't think I deserved that. It is a painful memory that I still find myself dealing with after almost ten years. Other painful memories I find myself thinking about until today? One particular game of beach volleyball where we found ourselves competing with fellow Ateneo teammates, I recall them hiding towels that the admin had given them. Towels they were supposed to be hiding from us. Why? I don't know, but if you put two and two together, its because it only makes sense that we should have towels because we were beach volleyball players but the admin didn't want to give us any. Probably another cleansing tactic. i think it was hard for me knowing that they intentionally hid it from us. But we knew. We're not stupid. Again, was that really necessary? Do you understand how twisted that is?

I was so lost, I buried myself in beach volleyball training. I'm not even sure if that was really a second chance, or a pity party. We never won gold except in Petron. I can argue that up until today our beach volleyball team has not won a gold either except during Charo, Patti, and Karla's time.

I am writing this as a way to purge these feelings. I want to get rid of these painful memories because everytime I see a volleyball game, I shut the tv. My heart shuts down. I don't want to be that kind of person, now that I am already on my way to somewhere new. I always pray about this, because I want to forget. I want my heart to heal. Its been way too long.

Jul. 26th, 2015

Top Ten Tips for Wedding Planning Without a Wedding Planner

Recently, a lot of good friends have been contacting me about how we planned our wedding with Arnelli. Nelli jokingly told me that I should have blogged about the whole process while it was happening. I thought I could still blog about it anyway while its still fresh in my memory. :)

Kisses, love! #asiarnelli1515

So first things first:

1.) Determine a budget.

This is important because it will be the determining factor of everything... From the size of your wedding, to the kind of food you will serve. While planning the budget, make sure to list down the non-negotiable expenses and those that are negotiable.
Example, Arnelli and I decided long ago that we wanted great food because we love to eat and we chose to spend majority of our money there. Ofcourse, alcohol was also included there. That was our biggest expense. Other big expenses were our clothes, the church payment, and the decorations.

Its all in the details. 😎 #asiarnelli1515

2.) Once that has been set, determine the guest list.

Our guest list was small, it contained 100 guests only. It started at 150 pax then we had to break it down. We didn't want to but we HAD to based on our budget. That meant we couldn't give our guests the freedom to bring a plus one. Only married couples were allowed to come together. We arranged an afterparty as well so that other people who want to party with us can join the fun after the reception. Ours started at around 8 PM. We had free flowing drinks and we also asked everyone to bring a bottle of their favorite drink. :)

Feeling old school. #asiarnelli1515

3.) Put your entourage list together.

That includes your sponsors, bridesmaid, flower girls etc. Don't forget to include them in your guest list. Nelli and I also had 2 get togethers in order to get the girls and boys together. This was done so that they would be friends already by the time of the wedding and it would not be awkward. It paid off in the end because they were friends and the wedding was much more lighthearted. It would be great to also get the sponsors together (if you can!). Treat them to dinner if you have the budget. It will also get them closer in preparation for the big day. :)

We had 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. Our sponsors were also 5 each lang. :) Tipid talaga. :)

Did you know that this photo was taken before the wedding ceremony? @bondy_beach had not seen me yet. We were just teasing one another. He said hello, and I asked him not to look. Super kilig! 😍😍 #asiarnelli1515

4.) Decide on your wedding theme.

This will determine your wedding motif, wedding reception options, and decoration expenses. Luckily, Arnelli and I knew even before we got engaged what we wanted, and that was a beautiful garden wedding in Baguio with non-negotiable string lights. That also determined our wedding date because the best weather in Baguio is during the January and February season (10% chance of rain). So these are a few things you have to think about when you're planning your wedding. Also, use pinterest as an inspiration board. That's what I did! :) <3

With my groom #asiarnelli1515 #gardenwedding #stringlights
5.) Decide on your wedding date.

Like I said earlier, we decided on the date based on the theme. If you want a garden wedding, then your wedding should not be in the middle of July - September since that is our rainy season here in the Philippines. We also made a hashtag which you can find on instagram #asiarnelli1515 :) You can also add it to your invitation so people remember it during the wedding itself.

6.) Pick a church and Complete your church requirements.

Depending on your church, you will have to complete several requirements for them in order to get married in their church. In St. Joseph the Worker in Baguio was pretty tedious. You need to be confirmed in church, and also you need to complete your precana, and an interview with the priest. More on this on another post since I need to brainstorm with Arnelli. He was the one who did most of the research for this.

7.) Pick a place for your reception.

It is always ideal to pick a place near the church so that your guests wont be late, but this isn't always the case. Just make sure you're happy with the location you picked, and that there's parking. Some event places have caterers, while others don't. So this may also play a role in your decision. We picked my parent's backyard so it was pretty easy from then on. Free pa :) By the way, we are going to make it an event's area soon enough. :) We just have to build nice bathrooms first :)

RG @mariechantal: Love & Light❤️ #asiarnelli1515 #regramapp

8.) Send out your Save-the-Date cards especially if its a destination wedding. Formal wedding invitations to follow. :)

We used an online website, check it out here. You wont be able to see ours anymore because the wedding is over. It's super cool though because you can see everyone who RSVP'd, and if they request songs for the wedding. Not to mention they have a QR code which we put on our wedding invite. :)

9.) Decide on your caterer.

Reserve them as early as possible to make sure that no one else does. :) The kind of food they will serve for the wedding comes about a month or two before the wedding. Always add some food to the menu. We added lapu lapu and lechon to our menu :) We also bought milo for the coffee station.

10.) Lastly, make sure to add a bit of you and a bit of your future husband in every little detail and ask your entourage and other friends for help.

During the reception, we didn't want to hire a band so we made a spotify playlist. Look for AsiArnelli1515 :) We also had one of Arnelli's bestfriends DJ for our afterparty. My sister and bestfriend also sang for us during the wedding. There are many ways you can add a personal touch to the wedding, you just have to ask. :)

We miss Baguio already! #throwback #baguio #asiarnelli1515 #wedding

<3 Okay that's it for now. I'll add more tips as time goes by :)

May. 12th, 2015

AsiArnelli1515

It has been 5 months since our wedding with Arnelli, and the days have gone by so fast. It was a really lovely affair, and life as we know it could not have gotten any better.

Just a few weeks back, we finished our third honeymoon in Hongkong. The first was in Mount Pulag with Tito Al and Patricia, and the second was in Camiguin with Yo and Jess.

Here are a few photos from Hongkong:
Victoria Peak Adventures.


Exploring Lan Kwai Fong


Just walking and taking in the well made buildings in HK. I especially liked this brick wall.


HK Disneyland. :) My first time!


Whenever Bondy and I get out of our own country, we feel so bad about our transportation system. Sometimes other Asians don't know how lucky they are to have such efficient train systems. The Philippines has no hope for a better one unless our politicians stop stealing our money and actually come together and use it to make something that will help the citizens of the PI.


Times square :) It was a busy night!


Avenue of Stars with this piggy. HAHA.


View of HK island at night from Kowloon.


Finally, La Luna - where HK locals hangout. Thanks to Euj for showing us this place and making us feel at home in his country.

Things I found out about HK during the trip:

  1. At first I didn't want to go to HK but then I found that Hongkong is beautiful and an easy place to get around in. People speak english too, so its not very hard to feel at home! Its also clean, organized, and well planned. I loved their airport, and how they avoided building on the mountains surrounding them.

  2. Din Tai Fung - best siomai ever!

  3. Disneyland and Oceanpark are very nice and worth going to, but crazy expensive! Make sure to eat a big meal before going there so that you don't spend so much of your money on food. For example, a turkey sandwich outside of Disneyland is about 9-13 HK dollar, but in Disneyland its 30 HK dollars. And that's already one of their cheapest meals there. Also, ride all the rollercoasters of both Disneyland and Oceanpark because it is worth the adrenaline rush!

  4. Make sure to get a local friend to take you around because they always know best.

  5. HK is crazy expensive so be sure to save lots of money and skimp on some things you know you can do without. Example: Lunch - sleep in and have a big brunch instead of both breakfast and lunch. Snack on 7/11 food, and/or only eat one expensive meal a day.

  6. Book with Airbnb because there are lovely rooms at affordable rates. Our room in Kowloon and in HK island were both airbnb. :)


I probably wouldn't do it again for such a long time unless:

  1. I have kids of my own that I would like to bring to Disneyland.

  2. I'm only going to spend a weekend there. Probably only if I could stay with a friend.

So that's pretty much it. I still think Japan is more affordable. Nelli and I decided we would go visit next year. :) Yehey! Actually, we were really supposed to go to Japan, but lost the chance to buy tickets at a low price so we opted for HK instead. :)

Jul. 12th, 2014

Wedding Plans

I have been quite busy preparing for the wedding. In fact, I'm quite distracted...

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Apr. 21st, 2014

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Wedding Updates

Hello friends,

Just an update about our wedding plans with Bondy. So far, we have decided to go with a Garden Wedding (original idea of ours ever since). It will be an afternoon wedding whereas the wedding ceremony starts at 2pm, and the reception at around 4pm. So at dusk, the reception will look something like the photos below. You may click on them for bigger photos. Note that these photos are not owned by me. I just got them from my Pinterest board. :)

Lighting:

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Table setting:

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Isn't it exciting? Other than the reception look, here's how I envision our invitations:

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:) I have more to share but I'll save it for another post. Meanwhile, below are a few meaningful lessons you might be able to use today.

        Happiness comes from within. We spend way too much of our lives looking for outside validation and approval                               that eludes us. Turns out, it's been an inside job all along. Go inward.


  1. Be grateful for everything. The good, the bad, the ugly. Our entire life is a precious gift. The pleasure, the pain -- it's all part of our path.

  2. Subtle shifts in perception will transform your entire life. When feeling fearful, angry, hurt, simply choose to see a situation differently.

  3. In being true to yourself, you can't possibly make everybody else happy. Still, it's better to risk being disliked for living your truth than to be loved for what you are pretending to be.

  4. The world is our mirror. What we love in others is a reflection of what we love about ourselves. What upsets us about others is a strong indication of what we need to look at more closely within ourselves.

  5. Everybody comes into our life for a reason. It is up to us to be open to the lesson they are meant to teach. The more someone rubs us the wrong way, the greater the lesson. Take notes.

  6. Trust. In troubled times, just know that the Universe has your back and everything is going to be alright. If you're not there yet, trust in hindsight you will understand. Your higher good is being supported, always.

  7. Never take things personally. What others do is a reflection of what's going on in their own life and probably has little or nothing to do with you.

  8. A walk in nature cures a lot. Taking in some fresh air and the beautiful landscape of this earth is amazingly head-clearing, grounding, and mood-lifting. Bonus: You can learn a whole lot about life in your observation of the awesomeness which is nature.

  9. Hurt people hurt people. Love them anyway. Although, it's totally okay to love them from a distance.

  10. You have to feel it to heal it. Bring your fears and weaknesses front and center and shine a blazing spotlight on them because the only way out is through. The hurt of facing the truth is SO worth it in the long run, I swear.

  11. Perfectionism is an illusion. A painful one at that. Ease up. Strive for excellence, sure, but allow yourself room to make mistakes and permission to be happy regardless of outcome.

  12. Take the blinders off. Don't become so laser-focused on your own goals and desires that you miss out on the beauty in life and the people around you. The world is stunningly beautiful when you walk around with eyes wide open.

  13. Celebrate the journey. It's not all about the destination. Savor all of your successes, even the small ones.

  14. Forgiveness is not so much about the other person. It's about you and for you so that you can gain the peace and freedom you deserve. Forgive quickly and often.

  15. We are all incredibly intuitive. When we learn to become still and listen, we can tap into some pretty amazing primal wisdom. Listen to the quiet whisper of your heart. It knows the way.

  16. Let your soul shine! Be authentic. There is nobody else on this earth just like you. Step into your truth wholeheartedly and live and breathe your purpose.

  17. We are powerful creators. Seriously, bad-asses. With intention, focus, and persistence -- anything is possible. Know this.

  18. I am full of light. You are full of light. We are all full of light. Some cast shadows on their own brightness. Be a beacon of light to others and show them the way.

  19. Don't take life too seriously! Nobody gets out alive anyway. Smile. Be goofy. Take chances. Have fun.

  20. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. And, love and support them right back! Life is too short for anything less.

  21. Learn the delicate dance. Have big beautiful dreams and vision. Chase them with much passion. But, also hold on to them all ever so lightly. Be flexible and willing to flow as life comes at you.

  22. Giving is the secret to receiving. Share your wisdom, your love, your talents. Share freely and be amazed at how much beauty in life flows back to you.

  23. On that note, be careful not to give too much. If you empty out your own cup completely, you will have nothing left to give. Balance is key.

  24. Say "YES!" to everything that lights you up. Say "no", unapologetically, to anything that doesn't excite you or you don't have the bandwidth for. Time is one of our most precious resources that we can never get back. Manage it wisely.

  25. Sometimes we outgrow friendships. It doesn't mean they're bad or you're bad. It just means you're on different paths. Hold them in your heart, but when they start to hurt or hold you back, it's time to give space or let go.

  26. Fear is often a very good indicator of what we really want and need in our life. Let it be your compass and enjoy the exciting adventure it leads you on.

  27. Overcoming your fears is one of the most empowering things you can ever do for yourself. You'll prove to yourself you can truly accomplish anything! Major self-confidence booster.

  28. Our bodies are our vehicle to our dreams. Treat them with love and fuel them with the best health to feel vibrant and energized. But, never obsess over image. Looks are subjective and will fade in time, anyway. Feeling good, healthy, and comfortable in our own skin is what matters most.

  29. Let those that you love know it often and enthusiastically. You can never say it or show it too much. Your time, total presence, love, and genuine concern for their wellness is the greatest gift of all.

  30. The present moment is where it's at. It's the only one promised to any of us. Learn from your past & enjoy the beautiful memories, but don't cling or let them haunt you. And, dream big and be excited about the future, but don't become obsessed. Love this moment, always.

  31. Life is full of highs and lows. We need them both to grow to our fullest potential. Just hang on tight and enjoy the ride.

  32. We are all connected as one human family. Nobody is better or worse than anyone else -- just at different stages of our journeys and dealing with life the best way we know how. Recognize that the other person is you.

  33. Practice daily gratitude for all the blessings in your life, large and small. Not only is this a high vibe practice that feels amazing, in practicing regularly you are creating space for even more abundance -- of joy, love, health, and prosperity.

  34. We are not the center of the universe, although our ego can make us feel that way at times. Step outside of that way of thinking and see the world and other people's perspective in a whole new beautiful light.

  35. The world needs more love, light, and laughter. Go be love.

  36. You are the guru. For much of our lives, we have been told what do, how to think, what looks good, what "success" is. You don't have to buy into any of it. Feel free to peel back the layers. Think for yourself. Break the mold. When you stop doing what everybody else wants you to do and start following your own intuition, you will be ridiculously happy.

Let life open doors for you. :)
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Mar. 13th, 2014

Engaged.

It has been a while before I have written anything substantial. It's been a really great year so far, and let me tell you about the day I got engaged.

My boyfriend of three years and I have been talking about getting married a little after my cousin's wedding in Roxas. I was delighted because I didn't think we would even be talking about it until I was 28 years old (I just turned 26). So hearing my boyfriend talking about it made me really excited. Although talking about it started when I visited him in Naga City back in August 2013. We played house, and it felt right. Seeing him all independent in the province made me realize how much he has grown  in the months he has been there. I guess he too, felt he has grown immensely.

I remember when he was just about to leave Manila, he was disappointed at how I reacted indifferently to his choice of leaving the metro. He expected me to be mad. Instead I was calm and collected. He questioned this and I explained that I believed he needed it. He needed it in order to grow. I guess I was right, but it turns out I also need to be apart from him in order to grow. I learned I needed to enjoy being on my own and to trust him. Previous relationships have torn me apart, and sometimes a part of that broken side of me emerges. We have fought about this several times, and his absence helped me fully heal. Today I trust him more and it shows. We treat each other with such tenderness I can't believe it sometimes.
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Here's a photo of when it happened. I've got to be honest though, I expected this. I just didn't expect I would react the way I did. Arnelli being such a family man gathered everyone in my family and those present in his in our living room in the house I grew up in. Yes I was aware that his family was in Baguio for a Filipino tradition known as Pamanhikan. He introduced this tradition to my family since we don't really practice Filipino traditions, but have made myriads of traditions on our own. After doing this, he asked me to introduce his family to my family. I found this pretty easy since only three members of his family showed up. On the other hand, my family was almost complete. So Arnelli took the task of introducing my whole family to his family. It was a really nice way to do it. Afterwards, he asked my parents if he could have my hand in marriage (Yes, it was very proper, I know). My parents were so funny because they made a little speech until they told him that "Yes" he could marry me. Above is the part that happens next, he tells everyone, aren't you wondering why Asia doesn't have a ring yet? That's when he took the ring out of his pocket. First he goes on talking about where the ring came from since it was an heirloom ring. The diamonds on the ring have come from his mother. All the boys in his family received three diamonds each from the original wedding ring of Arnelli's mother.

Everyone was getting so excited at this point because I suppose no one in the family has ever witnessed a proposal that way before. So my sisters and mother started chanting telling him to kneel already. So he did, and he asked me if I would marry him.

Of course, as they say, the rest is history.





See the ring? :)

Jan. 2nd, 2014

Nearing my 26th year. Here are my goals for the New Year :)

Flashback of what I've accomplished for 2013:

  1. Joined the gym but realized yoga is more my thing.

  2. traveled to Japan and experienced cherry blossoms

  3. experienced the festivals in the Philippines -- Sinulog

  4. Gonr to Korea for my first business trip! Seoul and Daejeon!

  5. visited Arnelli in Naga and go wakeboarding. Checked out Mayon volcano tooo

  6. saved more money--> Currently saving in sunlife and prulife (yes I opened insurance already)

  7. Applied for Teach for the Philippines

  8. Made new programs for Birthday parties at the Mind Museum.


2014 Goals: -->updated!

  1. renew my spiritual life

  2. make more money on the side

  3. Become a yoga for kids teacher

  4. learn myotherapy

  5. go back to Laguna and visit my immersion family

  6. go back to CRIBS and visit babies

  7. go backpacking --> climb Mount Pulag (Feb 1-2) (Gave it to Tricia.. Will do this with Nelli instead)

  8. Master archery c/o Rica & Gio :)

  9. Travel to Bali with Celestina -- done last January 21-26 2014. Wonderful trip! I will write about it soon!

  10. Save money for honeymoonerzzz (US & Japan again) --> Got officially engaged on my birthday!

  11. Read more..

  12. Be kinder.

  13. Sleep more.

  14. Have more green smoothies

  15. Get rid of baggage & all the things I don't use anymore.

  16. I got into Teach for the Philippines, but decided to defer to next year. I hope I can still pursue it since I'm accepted already. It will all depend on what Nelli and I decide to do next year.

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Jan. 1st, 2014

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year from my family to yours. <3

Merry Christmas :)
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Aug. 23rd, 2013

Do things with kindness.

"Do all the other things, the ambitious things – travel, get rich, get famous, innovate, lead, fall in love, make and lose fortunes, swim naked in wild jungle rivers (after first having it tested for monkey poop) – but as you do, to the extent that you can, err in the direction of kindness.  Do those things that incline you toward the big questions, and avoid the things that would reduce you and make you trivial.  That luminous part of you that exists beyond personality – your soul, if you will – is as bright and shining as any that has ever been.  Bright as Shakespeare’s, bright as Gandhi’s, bright as Mother Teresa’s.  Clear away everything that keeps you separate from this secret luminous place.  Believe it exists, come to know it better, nurture it, share its fruits tirelessly."

Read more here.

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Things to do before I turn 26.

Early last year, I made this list that I am trying to complete for this year. I wanted to add to it, and delete some things that are no longer a part of my long term goals.

  1. renew my spiritual life

  2. go on an authentic yoga camp

  3. travel to Japan and see cherry blossoms (tickets are booked!)

  4. experience the festivals in the Philippines (Sinulog booked)

  5. Go to Korea for my first business trip!

  6. become a stewardess so I can travel some mor ---> not anymore.

  7. visit Arnelli in Naga and go wakeboarding

  8. go back to Laguna and visit immersion family

  9. go back to CRIBS and visit babies

  10. go backpacking

  11. climb Mount Pulag

  12. save more money--> Currently saving in sunlife and prulife (yes I opened insurance already)

  13. learn myotherapy

  14. study more pain management therapies --> long shot

  15. have a pet --> my moms gonna kill me

  16. make more money on the side

  17. Become a yoga for kids teacher

  18. Apply for Teach for the Philippines

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